I really need help on this one.
I have a friend since 1st year college and we’re pretty close. Now, there is a gap between us (not only us but also among our 2 other friends).
It all happened during an announced presentation in one of our subjects. The class is divided into 4 groups and the first two groups will have to present something. I – and our 2 other friends – are part of the first group. And the friend I am referring to is on the second group. Both groups are not prepared for the presentation but my group presented. And while we are presenting, this friend of mine and another member from their group approached our professor and begged for a re-consideration. They said that they’re not prepared and hopes to present next meeting. Our professor agreed.
Everything seems to be alright until me and my two other friends slash group mates appealed. We said that the reconsideration that happened is unfair since the aforementioned presentation is announced. Because of this, the friend who is part of the other group is not happy with it. After this class, she left the room without a word. And on our next class, she finished the test ahead of time and left without a word again.
So, help please?
Let me clear this first, I didn’t appeal because of the grade. Yes, I am grade-conscious but I am not an ass who would do anything for grades. Moreover, friendship is on the line here and I’d rather have a grade lower than the average than to lose a friend. And the reason why I protest with the “it’s-unfair-thing” is because I cannot accept that a friend would do something like that. It’s like she used us for a good front so that their group can have a better grade.
I want to be friends with her again though. But I don’t know where to start. Also, I am determined not to make the first move because I feel like I’ve been used – we’ve been used for her sake.
So, what’s your say?
August 26th, 2008 at 1:43 am
Your friend is being a bit petty… I would just leave it and the dust will calm after the wind. If she is really your friend, she will get over it. You should not need to feel bad about it.
August 26th, 2008 at 8:52 am
talk to her about it.. hnd mo pdn sure whats on her mind dba.? kung bkt nagkagnun malay mo hnd yan ang iniisip nya and such.. well.. friends kau dba? hindi nmn cguru gnun mgging rison isa pa.. kung hnd mo kakausapn.. walang mangyayare.. dba? you have to talk it out with her..
August 26th, 2008 at 5:19 pm
first of all, hello janelle. lol. now lang ako nakaraan ulet.
hehe. busy busy eh.
anyway.
about your friend.
i really don’t think dapat gawing big deal siya. coz a requirement is a requirement. why should the friendship get on the way? i mean seriously, why.. lol. hindi ko siya magets kung bakit ganon siya. xD
well ganda, just talk to her. just explain na school requirement lang yun and blah blah. just talk to her. kasi kung hindi mo kausapin baka mas lumala. xD
tc!
August 26th, 2008 at 10:18 pm
i dont get the part when you’ve been used. ive been through this before. i was the one who was separated from my friends and we dont have anything to present on the day while my friends have one. we asked for reconsideration. and i got mad because my friends protested for the sake of grade. gee was i their friend? why wouldnt let me get a better grade. we presented something but its not enough. my prof said we should change our routine. and we do but they appealed. that was when i lose my temper. i think you both should talk. no one should make the first move in apologizing. but rather be the one in making the first move for the sake of clearing the issue. gee. sana magkabati na kayo. in my case, i was the one who apologized. even if its not my fault. i just dont want our friendship to end like that. so i ate my pride.
August 29th, 2008 at 3:29 am
hello mareeee~!! umm.. better talk to her, or better yet ikaw na ang maunang mag approach sa kanya, ehehe. kumbaga kasi ayaw ka niya i approach dahil nagagalit siya bakit parang andadamot ninyo sa grades.. sa isip niya siguro mga selfish kayo.. kaya ayun, explain mo na lang sa kanya ang totoong reason kung bakit kayo nag protesta
i’m sure maiintindihan din niya ‘yun.. if.. she is a true friend wahehe :p
August 29th, 2008 at 10:53 pm
you better talk that matter with her .. nkuuu.. sayang ang friendship kung dahil lang dun e, mgkakagap na sa inyo.. at dba friends kau? pagusapan nyu yan..
grabe, auko mgbigay ng mga gnitong advise. kase minsan gnun din ako. kahit n mgexplain yung isa, i still stand for what i want and what i believe, not considering the feelings of others. :[[ Well, I hope maayus nyu yan asap. 
August 30th, 2008 at 7:27 am
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August 30th, 2008 at 11:07 am
Well I think you just need to talk to her. Explain all your thoughts so she could explain hers. Unfair naman talaga yung ginawa ng group nila e. Hope everything will fixed
August 30th, 2008 at 1:22 pm
awww ang hirap talaa ng ganyan, antagal niu nang magkaibigan but the suddenly parang blink of an eye lang mawawala? sana magkaayos na kayo. T_T
August 31st, 2008 at 6:14 pm
I hope you get this sorted out soon.